Islamic Practices and Kegan’s Adult Development Model Alignment
Ramadan is often thought of solely as a time of refraining from eating and drinking. However, it’s more than that; Ramadan also leads to personal growth, aligning with Kegan’s adult development model.
Kegan’s Theory of Adult Development
According to Robert Kegan, there are 5 levels of adulting which naturally happen during someone's journey from childhood until they become adult.
- Impulsive Mind (2–6 years old)
- Imperial/Instrumental Mind (6 years old — teenager, also 6% of adult)
- Socialized Mind (58% of the adult population)
- Self-Authoring Mind (35% of the adult population)
- Self-Transforming Mind (1% of the adult population)
Nevertheless, transitioning into adulthood isn’t merely about getting older; it’s about adopting a mature mindset. Maturing involves gaining wisdom and comprehending the consequences of our actions and words.
Lately, I came across Kegan’s Theory of Adult Development, and as I’m still feeling the effects of Ramadan, I’ve observed something intriguing about how Ramadan influences my growth as an adult through spiritual practices. This article delves into how, over time, Ramadan has contributed to my personal growth, shaping me into a better version of myself.
1. Impulsive Mind
In this stage, children are driven by their most basic desires and needs, such as eating and drinking. Typically, individuals at this stage tend to be egocentric.
I remember when I was young, my parents slowly introduced me to fasting, even if it was only for half a day and not the full 30 days.
Through the month of Ramadan, children will gradually be taught to restrain their desires, particularly in terms of eating and drinking. Through this experience, I was gradually encouraged to control those basic needs of mine.
2. Imperial Mind
Slightly advancing from the previous stage, individuals at this stage only engage with others who can benefit them (transactional).
This was a time when I fasted for personal gain. At that time, my parents promised to buy me a PlayStation 1 if I could fast for the full 30 days.
Ramadan teaches us to care for others through various acts of charity, zakat, and communal iftars. By participating in these activities, I can cultivate empathy and enhance my social skills.
3. Socialized Mind
Individuals at this stage are heavily influenced by their surroundings, often seeking validation and striving to meet the expectations of their peer group.
At this stage, I fast due to the “pressure” from my environment, where I would feel judged if I didn’t fast.
Engaging in extensive worship rituals during Ramadan has allowed me to deeply explore and understand their significance. As a result, I’ve become less concerned about others’ opinions of me.
4. Self-Authoring Mind
At this stage, individuals can determine who they are, not dictated by others, relationships, or environment. They are not easily swayed by their surroundings because they already have their ideology guiding them.
This is a time when I question why I have to pray Tarawih for 23 rakats (since there’s an option for 11 rakats), perform Qiyamul lail (pray in the third of the night), and do i’tikaf in the last 10 days.
Thankfully, my parents consistently encourage and instill the value of how important worship is and how it will positively impact my life (both in this world and in the hereafter).
And this wouldn’t be as effective if not during Ramadan, which inherently supports individuals in enhancing their spirituality.
5. Self-Tranforming Mind
At this stage, an individual isn’t bound to a specific identity or role, but continually shaped through identity exploration and roles refined through interaction with others.
For example, when you disagree with someone about a crucial issue that may contradict your values, yet you can objectively understand both perspectives. Then, you create a third alternative that offers a win-win solution.
It feels too early to be at this level. I’m not sure if I’ve reached this level yet, as there are still many things to learn to continue growing spiritually and in maturity overall.
Hopefully, in the coming years of Ramadan, we can integrate the spiritual values gained during Ramadan into our daily lives (even beyond the month of Ramadan itself).
As we navigate the stages of personal growth, Ramadan serves as a guiding light, illuminating our paths towards deeper spirituality and maturity. Let us embrace the lessons learned, carry them forward, and strive for continual growth, not just during this blessed month but throughout our lives.
Happy celebrating the day of victory, folks!
Hi, my name is Nizar👋🏻
A professional product researcher who has an aspiration to become a writer and educator.
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